One of those mom-isms goes, "If you won't listen, then you'll have to feel." Now even if you've never heard that gem before, you have a good idea what it means. If you don't obey then there will be consequences; unpleasant consequences. Most people my age and older know all about those consequences. It was a common practice. In fact, it was a traditional practice going all the way back into the mists of antiquity for nearly every single culture on earth. If you were naughty, you were punished. Throughout history the same applied to adults as well. The annals of nations are full of accounts of crime and punishment. Consequences followed acts. Not every consequence was rehabilitative. Sometimes you just had it coming because justice demanded it.
As to parenting, somehow in the past few decades somebody had a meeting somewhere (I missed it) and decided that corporal punishment was a bad thing. A lot of people decided that we could do with less of it and we could discipline in other ways. I don't think that's a bad idea - the punishment should fit the crime. Problem is - parents don't seem to be that creative. The traditional way was automatic. No thought involved, no creativity required. The new way involved effort and thought - it was kind of hard. So instead of putting forth greater effort, many just kind of did nothing. There was nothing to fill the void of the former way. The parents weren't disciplined enough to discipline. The problem is self-perpetuating as now we have generations growing up with no idea of what it means to be accountable for your own actions, and are teaching their children the same. We have children who know no shame for misbehavior, feel no guilt over their sins, and take no responsibility for actions. They want rights without responsibilities and feel indignant if anyone tries to hold them accountable for their actions. The Apostle Paul warned that "in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy" (2 Timothy 3:1-2). Societies which permit anything will eventually lose everything.

The danger of consequence-less Mercy is unknowable unless the weight of justice is understood. Many parents believe that they are being merciful when they let their children "off the hook." In reality, this is not mercy but license. License is as far away from God's justice as one can get. It is reflective of the serpent whispering to Eve, "Thou surely shalt not die." It says "you can get away with this." Don't worry nothing will happen to you.

A Just God demands parents teach their children right from wrong, to be accountable for their own sins, and to learn to appreciate the demands of justice. Otherwise, they can never truly be penitent, never understand the depths of mercy, nor ever appreciate the atonement of Christ. Parents who do not teach justice, cannot teach mercy. They may teach license. But God does not participate in license. His Just nature disallows it. And His nature will not be mocked.
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